~ Leap Of Faith ~




The Collins Family
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Sunday, April 13, 2008

Belated Photo Friday

So I am a couple of days late for Photo Friday, but I thought better late than never.

Wes and I have been promising Jaidyn and Addy that we will go camping as soon as the weather gets warm. Jaidyn is so excited to use her sleeping bag that she got from her Grandma Penny for Easter. One night we read several story books with a camping theme and then I set up her indoor princess tent. We let her keep it up for about a week and she loved it and even fell asleep inside it some nights.
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Today I made photo cards on Walgreen's online photo lab for Addy's birthday coming up in May. I can't believe she is turning 2 on May 5th.
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Jaidyn has really started taking interest in taking pictures with my camera. Whenever I get it out, she is begging me to let her use it. Here are two of her latest pictures. She is actually pretty good for a 3 year old. I didn't crop these pictures at all. They are a little fuzzy, but for the most part she keeps it centered. Cindy, if you ever need an assistant, you might keep Jaidyn in mind. Ha!

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~ Funny Jaidyn Story ~
Jaidyn is becoming Miss Smarty Pants. I was in the kitchen this morning getting breakfast out for the girls. I told Jaidyn that she needed to pick up her toys in the living room before she could have her cereal. While I am in the kitchen she starts picking up her toys and calls out to me, "Mom, this is your idea, so why don't you come help me."

Friday, April 4, 2008

Explanation

I feel like I need to explain myself, I don't know why, but I do. I can't decide whether I am trying to explain how we are able to afford this adoption or explain why we are doing small fundraisers along the way. I am still trying to pull my thoughts together so this post might just be one big rambling and not make any sense at all. Here goes...

When we first started the adoption process, many of our family and friends were deeply concerned about the money that it was going to cost us to complete the adoption. I have to admit, that adoption is costly and the financial aspect of the adoption was one of Wes and I's greatest concerns also. However, when we completely decided to follow God's invitation and opened our hearts to this experience we knew that he would provide all that we need. God has already blessed us as a family in so many ways and he has generously provided more than we could ever ask for. We have ALL that we need and SOME of what we could ever want. This adoption process has opened my eyes to the poverty that is right outside my front door, my town, and the world I live in. In fact, many times I feel guilty about my life of beautiful plenty. We are primarily a one-income family and are able to live very comfortably with the salary that Wes brings home and any extra income that I can make through selling on Ebay. We are able to live in a nice home with a big yard. I can stay home with both Jaidyn and Addision (which I have always hoped I would be able to do), and that means everything to me. We are able to tithe, pay our bills, send our daughter's to preschool, invest in IRA's, and have some money left over for special outings/activites. I am very thankful that we have loving grandparents and relatives that babysit for free and help with our home maintenance projects. Living frugally, watching our grocery budget, shopping garage sales all helps to make this possible. I have found this way of life to not only be good for the wallet and good for the planet, but good for the soul as well. I know Wes is given a hard time about our (my) frugality from his friends, but it's how we got to where we are financially and it is also how we'll get where we want to be even more quickly. It reduces stress, knowing we can make it on less than we make. It gives us shared goals to work on and helps keep our marriage strong. It is amazing to me how much less materialistic I have become since we have had children and since we have decided to adopt. Buying a pair of summery sandals that would look great with one of my dresses doesn't seem so important when I know the money could be put towards our adoption savings. I think I can make the sandals that have the deep foot imprint last one more summer. Ha! Okay, maybe not...I might need to splurge.

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Speaking of shared goals, our current goal is to be able to fund this adoption without taking out any loans. This is why we are doing small fundraisers along the way. Why do we need to fundraise? Some of you have been through, are going through, or plan to go through with an adoption of a child so you know about it all too well, but some of you might not understand. So if you are confused by the fact that we need to fundraise for this adoption, here is my best explanation. There are a lot of expenses involved in an international adoption. Our first fees included the initial application fee, homestudy fee, dossier fee, psycholigical evaluation fees, medical evaluation fees and our I-600A visa application fees. We are now saving for the upcoming country fee that is due once we receive our referral, which will hopefully be sometime in the early months of 2009. This is our largest fee due at one time. Then we will have the travel fees, lawyer fees to fully legalize the adoption and the post-adoption fees. We are not in a desperate situation. We feel that we have planned for this and have come up with ways to be able to put back money. We do have the financial resources to raise all of our children, but it is just hard to come up with such large extra amounts of money to cover the upfront expenses and in such a short amount of time.

Our two fundraisers in addition to my ongoing Ebay sales include our upcoming garage sale in May and the collection of aluminum cans. I have already taken our can collection and a trash can full of cans from my parents to the recycling center and have deposited that amount into our adoption account. Every little bit is greatly appreciated and puts us one step closer to bringing our child home.

Just in case anyone is still reading this and still trying to make sense of it all, I just wanted to let you all know that we really do appreciate all of the love and support that our family and friends have provided us throughout this process. And we know that there are already so many people who are celebrating our decision to adopt!

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Upcoming Adoption Garage Sale Fundraiser

Our biggest adoption fundraising effort is our upcoming garage sale. We have set the date for the 2nd and 3rd of May at my dad and mom's house. We will also have a second one later in the summer when Richland has their city wide sale. I have been very busy with spring cleaning and decluttering. I still need Wes to go through his part of the closet, but he did clean out the shed a couple of weeks ago. My parents have been wonderful and have let us bring everything over to their house and store it in their basement after I have had a chance to price it.

So, if any of our family and friends have started spring cleaning and have items that you are looking to get rid of, just let us know as we would love to take any donations. Please put the word out and if anyone you know may have items to donate, please tell them about our cause.

My sister-in-law Haley has already jumped on board and has brought over a truck load of items. Here it is all piled in my living room. The suitcases are filled with items. Thanks Hunter, Haley, and Haven for all of your prayers and support throughout our journey.
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Please pray for nice weather that weekend and hopefully we will have a great turnout.

Lengua Estofado Anyone?

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Inspired by the Chicken Adobo that I made a month ago, I ordered the Philippine Recipes Made Easy book by Violeta A. Noriega. This book had many great reviews so I thought it would be a great recipe book to start with. I basically wanted a book to serve as a guide to easy, authentic tasting Philippine recipes. I really like how underneath each recipe name is what it is in English and all the recipes seem very easy to follow (anyone who knows me well, knows that the kitchen is not my area of expertise).

After skimming through the book, I think I will stick with the chicken, pork, and dessert dishes. Just in case anyone is wondering, Lengua Estofado is Ox Tongue in Tomato Sauce. The first ingredient on the list is 1 ox tongue, about 2 lbs. Yuck! Do they even sell ox tongues in US grocery stores? I don't think Wes would try this one and he will eat about anything.

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Thursday, March 27, 2008

Notice Regarding Time Frames

We just received this email from the Philippines program director at Holt. It definitely isn't encouraging news as we liked the email informing us that the wait time had decreased some for the last few families that had received referrals. We are hoping that we are one of the earlier families on the list since we were put on the official waiting list before the new year. However, this portion "ICAB does give preference to those adoptive applicants where one or both are of Philippine heritage. Childless couples are also given some preference for referral of a child." is disheartening as we don't fit into either of those categories.

"Dear Philippine program families,

Please find attached an email we recently received from the new Executive Director of the Inter-country Adoption Board (ICAB) in the Philippines.

As you can see, due to a recent dramatic increase in applications, ICAB currently estimates a time frame increase to about 2 years for the match of a child for those families newest to this program. There is probably one main explanation for this. As other countries' adoption programs have either closed, lengthened, become less stable, or become more costly, an increasing number of families have begun turning to the Philippine program.

Due to the Philippines' smaller size and population, there are not nearly as many children who become eligible for adoption as there are from some of the larger countries and programs. We still believe the Philippine program to be a very good option. Many of you may have already noted that there are no longer very many country options for families wanting to adopt young children within a short time frame.

ICAB does give preference to those adoptive applicants where one or both are of Philippine heritage. Childless couples are also given some preference for referral of a child. Families who meet this description will likely wait a lesser period of time for a child to be matched with them. However, it isn't possible to say by how much - i.e. would it still be about 2 years, or a lesser time frame?

In light of the above, we recommend doing/thinking about the following:

1) Get your dossiers completed and sent in to us ASAP. The sooner we send your dossiers for ICAB approval, the better. If you have any questions about the dossier, please give us a call. We'd be happy to assist you in any way we can to expedite this.

2) ICAB's letter also indicated that children a little older and/or children with a special need would be matched with adoptive families more quickly. Considering this, if you wish to stay firm with the age and health parameters you originally noted in your application and dossier, it is perfectly fine. However, if you would like to expand the age range and/or health parameters you wish to consider, please let us know that as well. Please note that we do not intend to pressure you to change your current wishes, only to make you aware of this should you wish to consider it.

3) We will send an email out to everyone quarterly with an update as to what the average time frames are that families are experiencing for the referral of a child by ICAB. This way you'll have an idea how this time frame changes over time and thus how it might impact the amount of time you could possibly wait for a child to be matched with you. We are not able to give time frame expectations for individual cases at this time.

ICAB's letter also mentioned a new law they are trying to pass. Most children available for adoption in the Philippines have either been legally relinquished by a birth mother or declared abandoned in the court system. When a birth parent legally relinquishes a child, the clock starts and six months later the child is determined to be legally free for adoption. However, when a child has been abandoned, the process to declare the child abandoned in the Philippine court system will often take three or more years. By that time the child's increased age decreases his/her opportunity for placement because the older a child is the fewer families there are ready and able to adopt him/her. It's for this reason they want this law to pass - to change the process so that an abandoned child could become legally free for adoption at a faster pace.

We will keep you updated at least quarterly about the time frames and how they change over time. Thank you in advance for your understanding and patience with these changes and feel free to call us with any questions you might have."

This is a letter that Holt received from the ICAB in the Philippines.

Dear Partners:

For the 1st quarter of 2008, we have noted the increase in the number of adoption applications. Although we are pleased that many of your families would want to adopt a child from our country, we are also concerned because we currently have very few children available for inter-country adoption. This would mean that there will be a longer waiting period for child placement.

ICAB and DSWD are exerting efforts to lobby for the passage of the law that will make the procedure of abandonment an administrative process which is one way to fast track the movement of children for inter-country adoption. However, until such time, we are concerned that families will have to wait for a longer period of time (perhaps from two years and longer) before they receive a child proposal from our country. Again, we emphasize the need to encourage your adoptive families to be more open in accepting children with some medical conditions and "with no background information" so that the waiting period for a child placement will be shortened. Kindly share this concern with your adoptive families.

Thank you.

Very truly yours,
Bernadette B. Abejo
Executive Director

Sunday, March 23, 2008

Happy Easter from The Collin's Family

May the glory of this Easter day reside in your hearts forever. Blessings at Easter and Always! Happy Easter!
Love, Wes, Jenny, Jaidyn and Addy

PS - Happy Birthday Papa Dave!

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This cute little hat matched Addy's Easter dress, but she refused to wear it this morning. However, since we have been home this evening, she hasn't taken it off.

Friday, March 21, 2008

Easter Egg Hunt

Hooray for beautiful spring weather! We were blessed with one more day of nice weather, perfect for an Easter Egg hunt before the cooler temperatures arrive. Jaidyn, Addy, Aunt Jill, Nana, and I tie-dyed all of the Easter Eggs. I may have even found a hidden talent. My Easter egg coloring skills are pretty impressive. I wonder if the Easter Bunny is hiring?
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The sleepy colors of winter
Fade fast in the dawn of Spring.
The joy of Easter's promise,
Delivers sweet reason to Sing.

Happy Easter!